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A purge...

Sometimes, you just have to purge. You just have to open yourself up and let it all out. Today is one of those days.

When I met you, I was so young and naive. We honestly were too young to get married, and we really didn't know each other well enough. But we were so in love, and thought that was enough. But it wasn't. The first few years we were together was like an unending honeymoon. I spent a lot of time by myself, and I grew up faster than I ever thought I could. We tried for a baby and it didn't happen, so we stopped trying and it did. When I found out I was pregnant with our little girl, you cried. You were so overprotective. I wasn't even allowed to drive to work because you were afraid that I would get into an accident and she would be hurt. When she was born, you said it was the happiest day of your life. When she was two weeks old, you had to go away. But it wasn't for very long. When we finally became a little family of three, things changed. You were no…

A love letter to those I leave behind....or what to do in the event of my death, and why you need to go to the damn doctor.

I know the title of this post is sad and shocking.  And it is supposed to be. This week my world was rocked by the sudden death of a dear friend.  He was 48 years old.  A family man.  A loving husband and father.  And now he's gone.  Died in his sleep on a business trip.  How do you prepare for that? Emotionally?  You can't.  You can never prepare to send your spouse out the door and then they don't come home.  But you can prepare for death.

Nobody wants to talk about death.  It's the elephant in the room that no one wants to discuss.  Nobody wants to think about not being here anymore.  That's normal.  But it's not ok.  If you have children? You need a will.  Period.  If you and your spouse die your children become wards of the state until guardianship is awarded to someone.  Temporary guardianship will be put into place until a judge awards final guardianship.  Nobody wants to think about that.  My mother was a certified financial planner and estate planner …

Yes I'm a mom and Yes I can......

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I was poking around Facebook the other day and came across a post from a friend.  Someone had written an article about "15 things moms should give up" or some drivel.  All about trends that moms hold on to and they should let go, ostensibly because they're moms.

Ok buddy.  Let's put the brakes on here for just ONE second.  First of all, you're a man.  Until you push something the size of a watermelon out of the head of your penis? You can sit down in the corner and shut up.  I myself had 2 close to nine pound babies cut out of my gut and then was stitched and stapled up like the Bride of Frankenstein.  Can you top that?  I didn't think so.


He bashes moms for jumping on the gluten free and paleo bandwagon.   OK, maybe gluten free and paleo might be overdone.  I get that.  But guess what.  Unless you have a gaggle of little ones that sit squalling and will only eat food in one color or take turns sticking stuff up their noses?  You don't get to judge what…

It's more than just a robot.....

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When I took my son to the high school for freshman orientation, I was more terrified than anything else.  My baby boy was going to HIGH SCHOOL.  My youngest.  My last.  My son.  I was so busy worrying about what could go wrong, that I didn't even think about what could go right!

He came home and said, Mom, I want to join the robotics team.  I kind of gave him the "side eye" and was like...ok..... (and in my head wondered what in the everloving heck a robotics team DOES). I was worried about him being labeled or thought of as weird, and didn't even know a single THING about robotics.

Boy did I learn.  Did I ever.  The first event I went to with him was an event called T.H.O.R., which stands for Thundering Herd Of Robots.  As I sat in the stands and watched for the first time what these kids could do, I literally fell in love.  Like head over heels whole heartedly in love.  FIRST Robotics is a worldwide organization that promotes ideas like Diversity.  Cooperation.  T…

I'm Mad as Hell and I'm going to say something about it

In this time of political craziness, correctness and full out controversy; I wanted to just put something out there to illuminate MY position on some things.  
I cannot claim to know how to fix everything.  It's a damned if you do and damned if you don't sort of thing in some ways.  But what I do know is:
I fill out forms multiple times a year for my patients to have energy assistance.  Many of them are on fixed income, and if the power or heat gets turned off and they have a home oxygen concentrator; they could die.  Period.  I had one patient who had his power turned off; EMS went in there because he called with breathing difficulty and his O2 was at 72%.  For anyone that knows ANYTHING about oxygen; that's critical.  He ended up dying.  
I've had patients call and cancel their appointments because they can't drive and can't get anyone to bring them.  Medicaid will provide transportation to appointments, but Medicare won't.  So if the elderly that rely on Me…

The highs, lows, angst and joy of job change

When you start a new job, it takes a while to get acclimated. You have to find out where everything is, learn the written and unwritten rules and it often takes a while to settle in. Oftentimes that transition is a lot easier if you join a company or office that you already have friends at. It makes things a bit easier, because you have that relationship with them that exists outside the workplace. And after you've been there for a while, you make new friends. You end up spending more time with them than you do with your own family in some cases.  These are the people you talk to, day in and day out, and they carve out a very important space in your life. Of course it's hard to have those feelings about EVERYONE you work with, because let's face it, most offices/teams/organizations have "that guy" or "that girl" that is a pain in the ass to work with and at the end of the day you escape from their presence like a Little Tykes wagon full of possessed dol…

Thank you Mr. President....

Our country is on the verge, for the second time in recent presidential memory, of something historic. Donald Trump becomes the President of the United States today, and a great many things will change. Over the past few months there has been so much back and forth between supporters and detractors, resistors and engagers, that it's hard to find anything people can agree on. One of the most often heard statements I've heard is how badly President Obama screwed up our country and that he didn't do anything right. Well, here is what he did right for me.

In August of 2005, I was a stay at home mom with a 4 year old and an 8 year old. One afternoon, I sent my then husband an email asking him what time I should meet him for lunch. His reply? I want a divorce. Get a job so I don't have to support you. So, I did. In January of 2006 I got my first job in five years. I made a whopping $11 an hour. My ex husband had been having an affair with another woman, and was planning on m…